Archive for November, 2007

Your Tempo is Key to Your Success

Tuesday, November 13th, 2007

A couple of years ago I used to listen to lots of different motivational audio-recordings. I haven’t done so for quite a while now but one of my favorite recordings was a tape that discussed the idea of momentum and it’s impact on our lives. I want to look at momentum today as the tempo that you live your life by. Your tempo in life determines your success and effectiveness. Tempo governs passion, passion generates motivation. If you want to increase your chances of success, increase the tempo of your life.

Hit a Nerve by Encouraging Growth

Sunday, November 11th, 2007

Most human beings have a tendency to prefer maintaining things as they are rather than embracing change. For some reason, people prefer staying where they have always been and doing what they have always done yet many of them want to see different results in their lives. Most people know that the key to getting different results is to embrace change but few want to do that. Encouraging them to change is like hitting a nerve with them. This is a good nerve to touch because the benefits will be immense. Make a mark today by hitting the nerve of encouraging people to grow.

Flood Your Mind With Good Ideas

Friday, November 9th, 2007

The key to success in life is the quality of our ideas. The more ideas you have, the more chances you have of producing some quality ideas. Ideas come to us from various sources. There are a variety of things one can do to fill the mind with good ideas. Most people find their ideas through reading. Make reading a daily habit. Read books that will inspire you to think big and to think more. Ideas can also come from colleagues. Engage with people who are making a difference and you will learn a lot from them. Mentors can also help with spurring your thinking to a higher level. Flood your mind with good ideas and you will set yourself up for success.

Make a Mark by Mastering Your Time

Thursday, November 8th, 2007

Humans are busy beings. One can even argue that we are human doings rather than human beings. We are always doing something. Our lives are crowded with many events, activities, tasks and duties that demand our time. We are always running from one engagement to another, from one obligation to another and from one responsibility to another. Given all that we have to do on a daily basis, the only way we can make a mark is by mastering our time. Time mastery comes with practice and experience. There are a variety of well known time mastery strategies that we can implement in order to make our actions and lives have more impact. These range from creating plans that guide our activities, making to-do lists, focusing on high value tasks and many more. Master your time and you will make a solid mark.   

Aligning Contemplation and Vision

Wednesday, November 7th, 2007

This morning there was a pile of work on my desk that I had left yesterday hoping to be able to complete today. It was a significant amount of work, so I sat back and thought through how I was going to handle it. As I contemplated this, images started forming in my mind of exactly how I would approach the task. I began envisioning myself working diligently to complete the task ahead of me. A few short minutes later, the entire work was done.

Success and productivity in life come from this process of contemplating and envisioning one’s strategy. The key to having results is to take the time to contemplate exactly what you need to get done and then envisioning yourself working diligently at that task. Contemplation allows you to clearly define in your mind what you need to get done. This is essential because it enables you to focus on what matters most. Your vision allows you to develop a strategy that will be successful in giving you the results you want.

Waiting Can be Rewarding

Tuesday, November 6th, 2007

One of the main reasons why people fail to be, do and have all they could be, do and have is impatience. Many of us want to see the results of our efforts immediately and we fail to patiently wait for the results to develop. We end up throwing in the towel and getting started on something new, only to end up repeating the cycle again and again. Waiting can be challenging but it can also be rewarding.

If we will make a mark we must approach life with the mentality of farmers. Farmers sow the seed and then wait patiently for the seed to germinate and grow into a big plant. It is a law of life. We have to learn to patiently wait as our dreams develop. But waiting does not mean not acting. Farmers continually tend to their crop as they wait for the yield to come in. We need to be in a state of constant action as we wait patiently. Waiting can be rewarding.

How to REAP a Higher Quality of Life

Monday, November 5th, 2007

Making a mark goes hand-in-hand with living a higher quality of life. In this post I want to look at four strategies that we can use to reap a higher quality of life. These strategies form the acronym REAP but the cool twist is that each strategy has five key words that start with the letter that represents that particular strategy. Let us explore these four strategies: 

1. Realize the Rewards of Rest, Recreation and Relaxation

A higher quality of life is one which is rewarded with adequate rest, recreation and relaxation. A reward only comes after effort has been put forth. The rewards of rest, relaxation and recreation should come only after you have given your very best at what you do. By realizing these rewards you make it possible to have continued success in life.

2. Engage the Energy of Empowerment, Effort and Excellence

The energy of empowerment, effort and excellence is the key to realizing the rewards above. You have to engage at a higher level in life in order to achieve a higher quality of life. Here’s a humorous way to think about it: the length of your empowerment, the width of your effort and the height of your excellence will determine the volume of quality of life that you experience.

3. Achieve the Advantage of Attention, Activity and Ambition

The advantage of attention is that it enables you to concentrate on the task and be productive. The advantage of activity is that it allows you to do a lot in a short period of time. The advantage of ambition is that it enables you to have a passion for pursuing that which will make a difference in your life. Work towards achieving these three advantages. 

4. Pursue the Potential of Preparation, Performance and People

Nothing makes you more effective than preparation. Nothing makes you more valuable than performance. Nothing is more important in life than people. A higher quality of life comes from preparing adequately, performing exceptionally and treating people extremely well. If you will pursue these, your potential will be greatly increased.

You can reap a higher quality of life. Apply these REAP strategies and you will definitely make a mark.   

Choose Associations Wisely: Bad Company Will Hinder You From Making A Mark

Sunday, November 4th, 2007

Two days ago I posted some insights on what my mom taught me regarding sustaining and increasing a good reputation with the people around you. Early this morning she called me to chat and I informed her that I had put together that article. She was excited to hear about it and challenged me to put together a post on something that my dad had taught me. So, here it is:

When I was a kid my dad taught me that one of the most important things in life was to choose one’s associations wisely. Dad repeatedly said that bad company corrupts good character. He invested a lot of time in teaching me how to choose my associations wisely. I have endeavored to apply many of the lessons dad taught me regarding associations and have also picked up many good ideas from study and from mentors. Today I’d like to look at fourteen unique associations we can have in life. The first seven fall into the category of ‘bad company’ while the bottom seven are excellent associations which will help you make a solid mark.


1. Miserable Associates – These are people who rob you of hope. They pollute the environment around you by covering it with misery. They thrive on the idea that misery loves company. If you are going to make a mark you must not give them the pleasure of your company.

2. Bitter Associates – These are drainers of motivation. They are always complaining and bitter about everything. They have a tendency to play victim when they run into difficult situations. They are negative about almost anything and will derail you by their negative attitude. 

3. Lazy Associates- These are enemies of the work ethic. They interfere with you every now and then and hinder you from focusing with what’s essential. Apathy is their motto and their number one craving is ‘taking things easy’. They dislike work and will beg you to be one of them.

4. Clinging Associates – These are zappers of energy. They sap vitality out of your life and practically stifle your passion. They are like pests draining you of the very essence of what makes you tick. They tick you off by denying you the pleasure of pursuing that which makes you come alive. 

5. Small-Minded Associates – These are destroyers of vision. They think small and have no goals beyond thinking small. Their low quality of thinking doesn’t enable them to produce anything that would be of significant value to you. They enjoy hanging around you but do not bring anything to the table. 

6. Discouraging Associates – These are raiders of the dream. They will always tell you that you can’t make it, urging you to give up and throw in the towel. They will drag you down by pouring water on your ideas and planting fear in your mind. They are pessimists who discourage all your initiatives.

7. Camouflaged Associates – These are the most sly of all. Problem is unless you are very sensitive you can’t identify them. Camouflaged associates are all those people who will seem to be supportive but in the long-run are not really adding value to you. You have to master the art of uncovering their concealed intentions.


1. Encouraging Associates – These are superb individuals, having the golden word that you need at the right moment. They have a sincere desire to see you succeed and will do anything they can to encourage you along the way. They are very optimistic and delight in being encouragers.

2. Resourceful Associates – These are people who will share with you ideas, tools and strategies that will enable you become more effective at what you are doing. Resourceful associates can be counted on to help you grow. They build your potential by equipping you with what you need.

3. Mentoring Associates – These are people who will help you to grow and develop into all you can be. They will share with you constructive feedback that will enable you to sharpen your skills and talents. They are like guides who will walk with you step-by-step all the way to your destiny.

4. Trustworthy Associates – These are people whom you can trust with the details of your life. Most often these are usually very close friends and relatives. They will stand with you as you pursue your plans and will help you face the challenges of life. They are usually very credible and honest individuals.

5. Trailblazing Associates – These are people who are leading in areas in which you are interested in developing yourself. Connect with them and learn from them. They will help you learn from their mistakes. Their example alone is usually enough to inspire you to stay focused.

6. Visionary Associates – These are dream-builders. They cause the vision within you to come alive. They usually bring lots of ideas to the table and will put in a lot of effort in making those ideas work. They are goal-oriented and driven. They bring a lot of life to challenging situations. 

7. Empowering Associates – These are the ultimate type. They equip you with what you need in order to do what you need to. They will do everything to ensure that you have all you need as you work towards your goals. They will share knowledge, ideas, resources, tools and anything else that will keep you focused.

Bad corrupts good character. Choose your associates wisely because they can determine what kind of mark you make.

Make a Mark by Giving the Benefit of Doubt

Thursday, November 1st, 2007

Human beings are prone to the habit of giving each other a hard time, particularly when we find out that someone has committed a mistake. We all make mistakes. Personally, I believe that it would be impossible to count all the mistakes that I have ever made in life. They are just too many! What I have come to realize, though, is that I would not be where I am to day had some people not given me the benefit of doubt along the way. What do I mean by this?

Giving the benefit of doubt simply means believing something good of someone rather than something bad when you have the possibility of believing either of the two.  I remember many times in my childhood when my parents would give me the benefit of doubt after my sisters or brothers accused me of one thing or another. There were many times when my teachers gave me the benefit of doubt when I came to school with incomplete work or got into skirmishes with other students. These simple acts of belief contributed a lot in enabling me to prove that there was a lot of good in me.

Having that foundation of people believing good things about me has helped me to continually believe the best in others. There are times when I have been cut-off by other drivers on the road and I’ve silently told myself, “He or she must be in a hurry to get to work” or “Maybe they have a sick person at the hospital they are rushing to see”. This kind of thinking keeps me from going negative about the situation or incident.

The truth is that we cannot change other people. Giving the benefit of doubt is therefore our surest way of staying in a positive frame of mind as regards other people’s behaviors or actions. Giving the benefit of doubt communicates to the other person that we may not know what they are going through but we are willing to understand the situation. This keeps us from being stressed by people’s behaviors. Make a mark today by giving the benefit of doubt.